Life is a journey, which is a cliche in and of itself.
How many times have you swore to make changes in your life, vowing that “tomorrow is a brand new day”?
How many times have you taken stock of your life, telling yourself that a year from now, you’ll be okay?
Sometimes, the most important part of taking care of yourself isn’t directly related to self-care: it’s coming to terms with your failures, big or small.
We’ve all been there. Setting goals for ourselves is a great way to plan our lives, manage productivity, and give us a sense of accomplishment.
But too often we set unrealistic goals for ourselves that just aren’t attainable, and when we fail to do the impossible we beat ourselves down emotionally until we’re tired of ever trying at all.
We’re human, which means we all make mistakes—in life, in love, and sometimes in good conscience.
And that’s okay.
We fail because we often fail to see the good in our lives, the positive influences on our character, the small things in our daily lives that shape who we are.
Sadly, society is not our friend. The complete and total indoctrination of social media in our everyday lives supports a culture of affluence and absolute perfection that so many of us want—but we just don’t know why that is.
The pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect boils down to our unhappiness, whether it’s with ourselves, our living situations, our relationships, or even something even more serious.
So we hit a breaking point where we vow we absolutely can’t keep living in this same reality anymore, vow to make changes, vow to set goals, and then follow them for a week or two before we realize how much more miserable we have become by putting pressure on ourselves to do something that we don’t absolutely need to.
These goals we create for ourselves—exercise every day for thirty days, lose 50lbs in ninety days, start a business that is immediately profitable—can’t be reached once you reach the truth: the most important thing you can do for yourself is try your best while refusing to make compromises on what makes you happy in life.
Of course, this isn’t to say that you should stop making goals for yourself. I recently embarked on our 90-day Better Change for a Better Me Challenge because I truly want to become a healthier, happier person, and I needed to form some sort of structured plan in order to do so.
But the caveat here is that these are small changes I can make in my everyday life that have no negative effect—and if for some reason they end up doing so, they can easily be removed or reversed.
Failure is a part of life. When it comes to your physical and mental health, it is so important to make healthy changes intuitively based on your body and your lifestyle.
The truth is we fail because we fall into failure by self-sabotaging our lives.
The hardest part of any health or wellness journey, mental or physical, is to let go of any preconceived notions of what health or wellness truly means.
Listen to your body, listen to your gut. Do what feels right for you and not what looks like it’s working for the fitness blogger you follow on Instagram.
Life is only well-lived when it is lived with intention. Our Better Change Daily Mini Challenge for you today is to take stock of what you are unhappy with in life, and just acknowledge the areas of improvement you would like to work on.
From there, check out our health and wellness category for resources and tips on how to accomplish these goals in a realistic and—dare I say—enjoyable manner.
For now, let go of your fear of failure, and realize that those who have failed the most or the hardest have later been the most successful in their goals by learning from their mistakes.