Those who struggle with self-esteem issues don’t always see how much it can affect their day to day lives.
They think they’re doing fine, but in reality; they could be holding back and not living up to their full potential because they don’t believe in themselves.
If you’re one of these individuals, here are some ways to rebuild your self-esteem.
Re-train Your Brain for positive thoughts
Many people struggle with negative thoughts. These thoughts can be about any situation, whether it’s their job performance, their looks, even their interactions with others.
Negativity tells us we’re not enough, that we aren’t loved, that we don’t do a good enough job.
These are all lies we have been told about ourselves enough times that it has become our inner voice.
Try to re-train your brain to be more positive. Whenever a negative thought arises, think of a positive thought to replace it with. For example, you could think that you aren’t smart enough for your current job.
Replace those thoughts with positivity; You were hired because you are enough for this job.
After long enough, your inner voice will shift to be a more positive one.
Stop Hyper-fixating on your flaws, focus on your best traits
When you have low self-esteem, you seem to focus on all your flaws. One by one, these thoughts pile up and cause you to be anxious or depressed.
Stop focusing on your flaws and start focusing on your positive traits.
You could be a good friend, one that is always there to help others. Or, you could be a great cook. Make a list of your positive attributes and pin them on your bathroom mirror.
When you wake up each morning, look in the mirror and remind yourself of these positive traits.
Stop Finding Validation in Others
When we have low self-esteem, we often seek validation in others, rather than finding it in ourselves.
We tell ourselves the more friends we have, the more we are liked, if we get praised at work, it must mean we are smart and hard working.
This becomes a dangerous cycle when we constantly ask others to validate our thoughts and feelings.
Start to find validation in yourself. Spend some time alone, taking the time to practice self-care.
Journal, treat yourself to a nice lunch, and find a routine that allows for you to take better care of yourself.
You can also speak with a trained therapist or counselor to help you work on any issues that may be contributing to your low self-esteem.
In time, you will learn to love and be grounded in yourself.
Being confident in yourself is not always easy. There is so much negativity in this world. Society tells us that we must conform to a certain standard to be worth anything.
But the truth is that you are worth so much more. You have talents and knowledge that the world needs.
With these three tips, you’ll be on your way to re-building your self-esteem.