We’ve all been wronged by someone at some point in our lives.
Many of us choose to forgive and move past it, but others of us struggle with forgiveness, especially when wounded by someone we knew and once trusted.
But until we learn to forgive one another, we are essentially enslaved and trapped, and we place ourselves into a prison cell with heavy emotional baggage to carry.
The good news is, by learning the benefits of forgiveness, we can learn to take off the heavy chains we are carrying and be set free.
Here’s why it’s always best to forgive, even when it may be difficult to do so.
Bitterness Is Heavy
When we don’t forgive, we continue to carry around baggage that eats at our soul.
There’s an old saying that goes something like “Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
And if you see this person who wronged you happy and joyful while you are the one suffering, until you forgive them this can deepen your bitterness.
Carrying around negative emotions is draining, it eats at our soul.
But true forgiveness will set you free.
You Get Your Power Back
When you hold resentment against another, you are essentially giving that person power over your life, without even realizing it.
They have a spot in your mind and thoughts – and simply refusing to forgive them disrupts your inner peace!
You may feel powerless at the wounding they caused you as perhaps their betrayal or act of disgrace caught you off guard.
But when you forgive another, you are making a choice. You are in control. You are taking your power back.
You Learn To Face Your Emotions
“Forgive and forget” is not good advice, because it teaches us to simply sweep under the rug the pain we are feeling.
But often betrayal hurts. Badly! And we can’t just “forget.”
We need to deal with what we are feeling.
By choosing to actually walk through the stages of facing your current reality, you are learning how to process tough emotions.
Whether depression, anger, or even grief, make sure to process what you are feeling so a bitter root doesn’t grow deep in your soul.
And forgiveness is a choice – you are making the conscious decision to forgive another person – even if you don’t feel like it at first.
Pray to God for the strength to forgive, knowing how much He forgave you too.
What Forgiveness Isn’t
Remember, when you forgive it doesn’t mean you condone the hurt that was caused against you.
It does not mean you let boundaryless or unsafe people back into your life.
Forgiveness is different than restoration of a relationship.
It simply means you acknowledge the wrong you’ve felt, you’re working through processing the emotions from the fallout, and you consciously choose to forgive this person to set yourself free from entanglement.
Do you find it difficult to forgive people when they wrong you?
What techniques have helped you move past the wrongs and be set free?
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